When faced with a challenge or a conundrum, most people will look to change the circumstances in order to change the result. I don’t believe that works. I believe the cycle will repeat until you’ve truly understood the situation and its origins. You will truly get a idea that you haven’t if the situation repeats itself in your life. This is a massive clue. I’m not perfect and things are repeating in my life and it’s because of that, the result that has led me to sit here and write this right now.
A common repeated scenario I hear from women is ‘I keep falling for the same type of guy’. A common one for the guys is ‘I keep moving too fast with a woman and realising I don’t love her’. Or from both sexes: I want to change career because I’m not happy where I am. The simple problem here is that not many people ask why?. They never get to the bottom of the reasons for the repeated results. However, there is a caveat to all this and it actually takes precedence over finding the why, and it’s extracting the gift and declaring the thank you.
Finding The Gift
The thing I want to make clear here is that this is not just looking for the positive in all situations. There is positive and negative in everything. Often our perception is lop-sided. The key here is getting to a point where you truly understand the gift or opportunity the situation has given you. I want you to truly look deeper and find the in what way has that event served you? Maybe you were being oppressed by a person with a stronger will than you. Lets look at that more closely.
Yes they were bitchy to you, yes they were mean to you. What gift did they give you? Was their actions in some way making your will stronger? Did the situation teach you to fight your corner? Did their constant bullying make you more resilient?
Lets take another example. Have you been moving from one job to another only to find you haven’t been enjoying them at all? That wherever you go you feel the same way? What gift can you extract from that situation? Maybe it’s a simple as having your eyes opened to that fact that your life is not meant to be about working behind a desk doing a 9 – 5 for the rest of your life? Maybe it’s to show you exactly what you don’t want to do.
Another example: You might have a persisting pain in your body. Maybe the gift is letting go of your stubbornness and finally going to see a doctor to get it fixed. Maybe it’s to give you a higher pain threshold. Maybe it’s to learn to meditate to heal yourself.
Get the picture?
There is no right or wrong answer in what you will take away or extract from the each situation. It’s just up to you to open your eyes and look. Keep looking, keep digging, don’t just stop at finding one or two things from each situation, find 20 gifts. Push yourself until you feel genuinely grateful for that event manifesting in the first place.
Your challenges will follow you until you extract the gift and declare you thank you.
1. Know that you challenges will follow you and may just change form.
2. Go through the process of extracting the gifts and declaring the mistakes
3. You have a choice – repeat this process? Or, repeat those events. It’s your call.