In an image conscious culture, it’s easy to feel down about the way you look. There is a belief that we need to look a certain way and we are bred to compare ourselves to others.
The more we compare, the more crap we tend to feel.
I used to be very image conscious and it took it’s toll on me, even more so because of my weightand the things I used to do to mask my physical flaws.
I don’t tend too pay much attention to myself until I catch a glimpse of myself in a mirror or reflection.
If you’re one of those people who does feel bad about themselves when seeing others, here’s what you can do to feel better.
Your habit may be to look at your flaws. You may focus on how you don’t look good in what you’re wearing, or how fat your ankles are, or how small your coconuts are, or how big your belly is. Etc. 😛 It’s easy to get lost in those thoughts – but remember that we come in all different shapes and sizes.
We see what society considers beauty and then think that because we don’t look the same, we’re not as beautiful and that we have to change ourselves to be accepted.
You don’t. You are amazing just the way you are! You are beautiful what you’ve been fed, is false.
The greatest and best way to accept physical appearance is to shift your focus.
“What you choose to focus on, will prevail”
Because I work with disabled children and adults, I get to see how blessed I really am. Even though I sometimes look at myself and wish I had different physical attributes (A bit like Dwayne Johnson), I see these people, who have so little, and realise that every small thing I take for granted, would be the greatest gift in the world to someone who is much less fortunate than I.
When I see them, I start to remember exactly just how fortunate I am. I can run, jump, dance and do so many incredible things; most of which I take for granted.
So when I see myself in the mirror, and I see my flaws, I pause and remember how truly blessed I am compared to others. Sure, I may not be as blessed as some, but then to others, I more than make up for it.
This is more than just feeling better about yourself. It’s more than just using those, who are less abled, to elevate your mood. It’s about ingraining into yourself reminders of just how truly fortunate you are. This is also about becoming centered and bringing yourself back to that balance.
It’s about realising that we all have self perceived flaws, but that in the grandest scheme of life, despite them we also have it pretty good too!