Give Your Limiting Beliefs The Middle Finger
Limiting beliefs are the constraints you place upon yourself in your abilities to go beyond what you even thought possible. They often come coupled with excuses and reasons as to why you can’t go beyond them.
When I first went to an Anthony Robbins seminar some years ago, I had no idea what to expect. I just knew that at some point during the weekend I’d be doing fire-walking and the thought of it scared the heck out of me!
The day before the seminar, I’d badly bruised and injured my foot and was barely able to walk.
Coupled with that injury, I thought that there was no way that I would be able to do it. (And deep down I was thinking wooohooo!)
Then, two hours before the fire-walk, Tony went through the motions of preparing the audience and how to think to avoid getting hurt or burned.
He had an amazing affect on people, myself included and after he finished his coaching, I felt ready and prepared to go through the fire.
I was still scared, my foot was still in pain, I was limping all the way to the hot coals, but I went through with it despite the fear and despite any limiting beliefs I had.
The one thing that whole experience taught me was that having the fear or a limiting belief is not the problem, the problem is when you allow it to stop you from doing what you want.
When you create a new belief, make sure it’s one you can achieve and one you believe. For example, I made a goal 5 years ago to become a stand-up comedian and I did it. I don’t do it full time but it has given me the necessary skills to be able to perform on stage like and be up there with the best of them.
There are 2 kinds of primary limiting beliefs: The ones you impose on yourself and the ones imposed on you by others which, after some reinforcement, you’ve bought in to it.
Limiting Beliefs – How To Spot Them
Here’s a list of the kinds of thoughts that signify limiting beliefs
I don’t deserve it
I’m not good enough
I don’t have enough qualifications
I’m not good at networking
I don’t have a degree
I’m not sure I’m worth it
I didn’t go to university
They’re offering more than I deserve
I don’t have the energy
I’m too tired
I don’t have the right skills
I’m not funny enough
I just don’t have what it takes
I could never achieve what they have
It’s ok for them to say that, they’re rich
You have a long way to go
You’re not ready
You don’t have what it takes
You don’t have the passion
You’ll never amount to anything
You’ll always be this way
You can’t cut it
Do any of those sound familiar?
What most people don’t realise is that essentially a limited belief is like a half-hearted goal. Rather than setting yourself a grand goal, you are setting yourself a below par goal to try and somehow avoid the disappointment of failure.
The question is are going to let any of those limiting beliefs determine your destiny, or are you going to dictate the beliefs you have an then shape your destiny accordingly?
The first step in having a stand-off with your limiting beliefs is recognising those beliefs that are preventing you from moving forward. It might even take someone else to point it out. Once you recognise them, then you can do something about it.
I have my fair share, and still allow excuses to creep in now and again, but I’m much better at detecting them, and because of that, I’m able to deal with them head on.
When you detect one, ask yourself honestly: Why do I believe that? Where did that come from? Why can I not go beyond it? How can I go beyond it? Why can’t I take that limiting belief and give it the finger?
Once you’ve asked that last question, give it the middle finger!
Awesome post and finally someone who does not put a finger in between. Forget about the limiting beliefs and start realizing that you can do whatever you set you mind to do.
Thanks for sharing. Happiness and motivation lies in believing that what you want to achieve is possible.
Thank you so much Anders! 🙂
Great article Amit,
Limiting beliefs can hinder our growth in many ways, washing away our confidence levels if not fought head on.
However, fortunately , it’s in our own hands and (minds) to take action and overcome those limiting beliefs. That’s what personal development is all about.
Thanks for this post.
Hey Naveen, thanks you for sharing and very very true indeed. 🙂
Well said Amit. Flip them off. Feel limiting beliefs arise then tell them to get out of there. What a quick and easy way to become limitless. Thanks!
Thank you so much Ryan for your comments. Funnily enough The definition of ‘Amit’ = Limitless or Unlimited 🙂
Very powerful story with the coals, I love it. And the post is very inspirational too, thank you! Just for some reason, I prefer thinking of limiting beliefs as old friends I say good bye to, rather than the middle finger 😀
HAHA I know it’s a bit harsh, to give them them the middle finger, but sometimes it’s worth it! 😀
I really like those words:
“The one thing that whole experience taught me was that having the fear or a limiting belief is not the problem, the problem is when you allow it to stop you from doing what you want.”
Absolutely! We will always feel certain limitations, but the point is to push our boundaries & beliefs, to become bigger, to grow, to make our boundaries smaller and beliefs bigger…
For example, if you earn 20k/year, it probably wouldn’t work to say, next year I will make 500 million… You could say, I will earn 60k or 100k… and once you are there you could keep on pushing those new boundaries… and than you may come to the conclusion that money isn’t everything and what you really want is something completely different… – another boundary, a new belief that may lead to more fulfillment.
Absolutely, and the money example you gave is ideal. I was nearly broke just two years ago and yet now my financial situation has turned completely around.
I know that it won’t always be the case, money comes and goes, challenges change form, even after you have the money. But it’s amazing what happens when you start to change those beliefs and give them the proverbial “middle finger!!”
Thank you so much for your comment
Wow, really inspiring, gave me a lot to think about, alot to digest.
Much appreciated and thank you for connecting. Wishing you all the best,
I don’t share the views presented in this article. Why on earth should you not have limiting beliefs? There are physical, financial, and age limitations to what a person ca do. Accepting the fact that there are many things that you cannot do (or that you cannot do well) is the first step for being able to focus on those other areas where you can really excel. A well-written article, but I disagree with its contents.
In that case, we’ll agree to disagree. I was never that funny as a kid, I used to believe that maybe I couldn’t be funny! It was a limiting belief I gave the middle finger too and I went on and became a comedian.
I used to think that I would never be able to complete a marathon, but in 2012 I gave any last remaining beliefs the middle finger and in turn also raised Â£5000 for a young boy who needed a new wheelchair.
i didn’t say we don’t have them or don’t need them, I’m saying it’s good to know when to tell those beliefs where they can be shoved! 😀
All the best,