Learning So Much About People And Life

Even though I am who I am, I am still getting to know myself and getting to know the nature of others. I understand fully that whatever experiences that do manifest within my life are of my choosing. But alas, I am still human and sometimes when I’ve attracted those negative experiences I must accept that part of me which will naturally become upset or hurt.

I recently found out that things were being said about me by people I consider close friends and when I found this out I immediately had to question the person I am and my actions.

What led to them saying these things about me?

If that is truly their opinion of me then why not tell me direct?

What did I say or do to cause this?

This is where sometimes knowing about the power of choice or knowing that you the cause of the events in my life that you can easily become distressed or feel helpless that regardless of whether you think you’re doing good, contributing to the greater good or working on self growth, there will be times when others will not see your actions as good things.

Take it from me; take comfort from the fact that just as much as you may have been the cause, you also have the power to change, to power to choose a new direction, the power to attract new people and the power to shape your destiny!

12 Responses

  1. Michelle says:

    Hi Amit,

    I’m sorry to hear you are having this problem. It’s a difficult position to be in. Remember that each of us sees with our own perceptions, and that what people are seeing may not be what you are really doing….your actions are colored by their past and their insecurities, their desires and their jealousies. It may not be anything you did at all, just what they think you did, or some action or word which you didn’t intend to be perceived the way they perceive it.

    Take care.

  2. Schumi says:

    Hello you,
    I am so sorry that this episode took place…..I strongly believe that every thing happens for a reason and we must learn from it. It is only natural to be upset but don’t let this make you question the person you are or your actions…. The higher you go/grow in life, you’ll come across a lot of people who will try to pull you down. Some people have rather strange ways of coping with their own problems and timidity. It’s merely out of envy that people say silly things about others. Don’t ever doubt yourself hon for you are an amazing person and have a very affectionate and kind soul. I am so proud of the person you are and the things that you have achieved. It’s only going to be onwards and upwards. Smile sunshine 🙂
    Love you lots.

  3. Amit says:

    Hey Michelle,

    I know you’re right and I understand what you’re saying. I wish these people had the courage to say these things direct to me so atleast we could discuss them and work through them, clear any misunderstandings etc. I did spend some time in silence last night, bringing those souls into my head and forgiving myself and forgiving them.


  4. Amit says:

    Hey Schumi.

    Thank you so much for your kind words, they certainly put a smile on my face this morning. 😀

    I will take your words to heart and know that every situation has been a choice by me. I chosen to call fourth this experience so that I may know that part of me which is forgiveness and love.


  5. Michelle says:

    Hi Amit,

    (((Hugs right back!)))

    Of course I don’t know your friends or their motives for not speaking to you directly, but generally speaking, when people don’t want to discuss something, it means they’ve already made up their minds about it, and there isn’t much anyone can say to change that.

    Even the most openminded people sometimes get downright protective of their misconceptions. I will hope that this is straightened out and that clarity and understanding rules. 🙂

  6. Mital says:

    Amit, this is a situation I’m familiar with. Each time I have a negative experience, I immediately try to track back how I attracted. I usually do, it may be a thought, something I said, something I did, but nonetheless I find how I caused it.
    Another thing which has been playing in my mind is being human. Being a student of personal development, I sometimes get caught up in trying to apply all the right techniques, keep a positive mind frame,ect. Don’t get me wrong, personal-growth is something I’m very passionate about, but sometime I do things and that remind me I’m still human. It’s ok to be human and make mistakes.
    I’ve also learned that you can change peoples perceptions of you through sending them positive, just like you did in silence. I usually sit in silence and see and hear them percieving me in the way I desire. It works!
    The way people see us is a direct reflection of how we see ourselves. So dig deep and find what it is that is causing them to see you this way.
    I just recently had the same exact experience. I feel you! But hey no matter what we have to keep on SMILING! 😀

  7. Amit says:

    Thanks again Michelle, I feel much better getting it off my chest and I know that ultimately they too have made their choices and for good reasons that I may not ever get to know but I will give my forgiveness and let this go now. I will put it in the hands of the Godliverse and whatever is to transpire will transpire.

  8. Amit says:


    I will dig but only to a certain point…if I cannot find what it is I will move on. I take comfort from the fact that if I have not understood clearly what the reasons were for this situation arising, I know that it will arise again but next time I will be better prepared and able to deal with it much more easily.

    😀 Keep smiling too my friend!

  9. Hi Amit,

    I’ve related to much of what’s been written by others and agree with much of what’s been shared. As a recovering people-pleaser and perfectionist, I know that I’ve sometimes been challenged to “learn” about why I attracted a given result and also being unattached to other’s perceptions (My husband Bruce likes to remind me that “What other people think of me is none of my business.”). As I’ve come to know you through your blog and your posts on mine, I have confidence that you’ll glean the appropriate learnings from this experience and use YOUR power of CHOICE in the best way you know how. Peace and thank you for sharing. Lots of HUGS too!!

  10. Amit says:

    Hi Shonnie!

    Thank you for your inspirational thoughts! I agree with your husband and it’s so true! I too am a recovering people-pleaser! 😀

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